What if…So what?

Jul 7th, 2007 | By | Category: Articles

I have never been a great fan of self help books. I have never loved the idea of someone telling me what to do – even if its the right thing. Like most of us I like doing my own thing. And if it turns out to be a mistake, I, like most of us again, am only human.

Almost every day in our life there comes a moment when we want to do something but we don't.

Like say, we want to ask a person out, or ask our boss for a raise but instantly our brain throws up a What if…?

What if that person says no?

or What if the boss says no and gets mad?

This happens to a lot of people I know, including me, and then the thing never happens – gets nipped in the proverbial bud, so to say. To get over this we have to condition our brain to counter the what if with a so what.  The person says no…so what you were not with him or her in the first place; by going ahead and asking him/her out you are just increasing the probability of that thing happening

The boss says no…so what ..you weren't getting a raise anyways….you just might, if you ask for it ( Of course, this is assuming that you deserve a raise). Now, when I set out to write this I had a- what if someone thinks this is a piece of nonsense?…. I countered it with a – So what…. someone might just like it and that would be worth the effort.

 



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